What is the Definition of Intimacy? What does it Mean to be Intimate?
Publish on the Focus on the Family website
“Our souls crave intimacy”—Erwin Raphael McManus
Sometimes singles will do just about anything to get close to someone they find interesting, intriguing or just plain irresistible.
One single woman I know drives through Starbucks daily to get her dose of caffeine. One morning as she approached the speaker to order, she noticed that the man in the truck in front of her looked very attractive. She eyed him through his rear view mirror. Wow! Handsome! Hmmm. . . I wonder if he’s single. In a split second she made a plan.
“Hi. Welcome to Starbucks. What can I get started for you today?”
“Well to start, can you do something for me? Will you ask the guy in front of me if he’s available?”
“You mean the guy in the truck? Suuuuuure. I’d love to. What else can I do for you?”
After she ordered her half-pump, no whip, soy, Venti mocha, she laughed at herself and thought, What in the world have I done?
She blushed as the hunky man in the truck pulled to the drive-up window. She watched as Ms. Starbucks asked if he was available. And then, in a flash, she watched as he drove away.
When she got to the window, she learned through Ms. Starbucks’ giggles that he was indeed, attached, married even.
Sometimes singles—and everyone else on the planet—will go to great lengths and even make complete fools of themselves to get close to the opposite sex.
Why? Is it because of our innate desire for sex? Is it because of loneliness? Desperation? Stupidity? Hormones? Of course, it can be all of the above, but the answer I’d like to focus on is: intimacy.
The human desire for intimacy, for love, drives us to do things that we never thought we would. But why, and what does it mean to be intimate?